Ok, the holidays can be happy events and a heartful gathering time for families and friends. They can also be quite stressful. Too many engagements to show up for, too much food that is not on the diet, and the desire to either show a happy face or the need to repeatedly explain the unexplainable in answer to, “How are you feeling?”
Our best intentions to be calm, eat well, and rest can be overridden by the demands of the weeks ahead. You are your own best advocate. You are the only one who can really know what it is like if you veer off the diet and summon old symptoms to return. Only you can know how a non-restful night in a strange bed after traveling takes it toll on you. Carve out quiet time for yourself and set an example for others that share the tendency we all have to pack everything we can into the traditions, meals, and conversations that are part of the relatively short holidays. Try not to force yourself to keep up with the holiday pace.
If you are fortunate enough to have people come to you this year, you have more control over what takes place around you. Use it to set a sensible pace, limit the ‘too muchness’ and ask for help wherever you can. Others pitching in can actually create a bigger sense of community even if they do things ‘their way’ and not yours. Start new traditions that include the old in simpler formats and lessen the potential disappointment that can arise when big expectations are not matched by the realities of people and parties.
The earth is experiencing its movement away and towards the sun and many religious and cultural celebrations coincide with that dance of light. Take care of yourself so that your own light can shine. This year, let this be your gift to yourself. Be well and stay well.